{"id":1403,"date":"2023-09-07T16:22:10","date_gmt":"2023-09-07T16:22:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unnaturalsuccess.com\/?p=1403"},"modified":"2023-09-07T16:41:06","modified_gmt":"2023-09-07T16:41:06","slug":"3-reasons-people-fear-public-speaking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unnaturalsuccess.com\/news\/3-reasons-people-fear-public-speaking\/","title":{"rendered":"The 3 main reasons people fear public speaking"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1403\" class=\"elementor elementor-1403\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"ob-is-breaking-bad elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-5cf663b3 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"5cf663b3\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_ob_bbad_use_it&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;_ob_bbad_sssic_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_glider_is_slider&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-22dac2b4\" data-id=\"22dac2b4\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_ob_bbad_is_stalker&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_teleporter_use&quot;:false,&quot;_ob_column_hoveranimator&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_column_has_pseudo&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-40e0d023 ob-has-background-overlay elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"40e0d023\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_ob_photomorph_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_perspektive_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_poopart_use&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;_ob_shadough_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_allow_hoveranimator&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_widget_stalker_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! 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elementor - v3.21.0 - 25-04-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The 3 main reasons people fear public speaking<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-53d8d43 ob-harakiri-inherit ob-has-background-overlay elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"53d8d43\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_ob_use_harakiri&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;_ob_harakiri_writing_mode&quot;:&quot;inherit&quot;,&quot;_ob_postman_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_perspektive_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_poopart_use&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;_ob_shadough_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_allow_hoveranimator&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;_ob_widget_stalker_use&quot;:&quot;no&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.21.0 - 25-04-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">I&#8217;m currently in the process of writing my 3rd book, The Unnatural Public Speaker. As it&#8217;s name suggests, it will be aimed at people that don&#8217;t find public speaking easy, and I&#8217;ve just finished the &#8216;Facing the Fear of Public Speaking&#8217; chapter, so I thought I&#8217;d share a little excerpt here in this article.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">As part of the research on this chapter, I did a few LinkedIn polls asking what it was about public speaking that caused them to fear it the most. Here, in countdown order, are the top 3 answers:<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\"><strong>3. Worrying what people think of me<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">The irony of this one is that while you might be worrying about what people think of you &#8211; they generally really don&#8217;t think about that! In most cases, people are far more worried about their own lives and problems.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">Indeed, in some situations where you will likely be speaking &#8211; for example at a networking meeting &#8211; you will get a generally supportive audience. Not only are they very unlikely to think negatively of you, they\u2019ll actually be willing you on to succeed.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">Clearly other speaking situations are not always going to be friendly \u2013 but the more you can tell yourself that you are in front of them on merit the better. You were invited to speak to them today \u2013 even if you put yourself forward, someone accepted your offer. &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">\n<\/p><p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\"><strong>2. Thinking that what you\u2019re saying is boring<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">The simple answer here is \u2013 don\u2019t be boring! But yes, I appreciate you&#8217;re probably looking for more than that\u2026<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">There&#8217;s not enough room to expand on these here (you&#8217;ll have to wait until the book comes out!), but if you can:&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">a)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Use stories you\u2019ll immediately be more engaging and less boring because people love hearing stories<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">b)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Structure your talk effectively \u2013 if the audience can follow where you\u2019re going, they\u2019ll stay engaged<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">c)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Connect with your audience. If they \u2018like\u2019 you, they\u2019ll more likely be interested in hearing what you\u2019ve got to say.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">But it\u2019s also worth remembering what the question was here: what causes you to fear public speaking the most? Let\u2019s just translate the 2nd most common answer for clarity:&nbsp;<em>me<\/em>&nbsp;thinking that what&nbsp;<em>I\u2019m<\/em>&nbsp;saying is boring. Not the audience. It certainly doesn\u2019t suggest that what you\u2019re actually saying is boring.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">As such, if this affects you, the answers may well be found in your past. What makes you think you\u2019re boring? Did some previous boss or an old school teacher make some flippant remark in a certain situation that actually has no relevance to what you&#8217;re doing now? Was there some prior experience you can compartmentalise and put aside to allow you to move forward?<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">\n<\/p><p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\"><strong>1. Forgetting your script<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">Nearly half (43%) of people responded &#8216;Forgetting your Script&#8217; \u2013 so I\u2019m not going to belittle this \u2013 it&#8217;s clearly an issue. Here\u2019s a couple of thoughts that might help you if you&#8217;re concerned about forgetting your words.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">The first thing to remember is that your audience doesn&#8217;t know what you&#8217;re going to say. They have no idea if you\u2019ve stuck to your script! So as long as you keep going, and don&#8217;t stumble over what you&#8217;re saying when your mind goes blank &#8211; the audience aren&#8217;t going to know.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">Secondly, there&#8217;s no reason why you shouldn&#8217;t have some notes with you. Clearly, you don&#8217;t want to be reading the script out verbatim: that really would be boring. But having your main topic headings as bullet points on a piece of paper \/ cue card in front of you is absolutely fine.<\/p>\n<p class=\"reader-text-block__paragraph\">Lastly, the more you practice, the less likely it will be you forget what you were going to say. When doing a talk, it\u2019s inevitable that we\u2019ll compare ourselves to professional speakers that are at the top of their game. After all \u2013 we\u2019ll always model ourselves on the best. When you see a professional speaker deliver their talk, it just seems word-perfect: they don\u2019t have any notes, the slides change right on cue, and they pause at all the right places. This is because they have practiced. They\u2019ll have delivered that talk tens, if not hundreds of times. That\u2019s why it feels natural.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The 3 main reasons people fear public speaking I&#8217;m currently in the process of writing my 3rd book, The Unnatural Public Speaker. 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